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Young Adults Needed for a Research Study

Posted by Laurel66 | July 29th, 2014

Individuals needed to participate in an Internet-based study looking at the experiences of people who access Internet message boards to talk about self-injury. This is a research study being conducted by a psychology graduate student.  Please respond if you meet the following requirements:

1)    You are between the ages of 18 and 25, fluent in English, and living in the United States.

2)    You have personal experience with self-injury within the past year.

3)    You currently access an online self-injury message board (one or more) at least once a week, and you have done this for at least three months.

4)    You feel you have experienced support of some kind from the board(s).

5)    Your self-injury is not suicidal in intent.

If the above descriptions apply to you or you have any questions about the study, please email Laurel Brow at  If you are included in the study, you will be asked to complete a confidential questionnaire through email. You will receive a $15 Amazon gift card as a token of appreciation for your participation.


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Posted by Thoughtspiller | July 24th, 2014

Its been a while since I came on here.  I cant say ive been better or worse.  Its been a daily battle, a constant thought, a constant reminder that I will never really go a day without the thoughts of self harm.  Which at this point, I have come to terms with.  I get it, I wont be free from this.  I just wish I didnt have to be so weak and give into it sometimes.   I feel like my SI patterns have gotten much better, I can go a month or two without giving up and doing it.  I just hate that I harm during times that are really going well!!!!  This last time I injured, i had just gotten back from a road trip with my bff.  Like we had an amazing time, went to an amazing concert did so much fun stuff, then I get home and injure.   Its like I get the idea in my head, and if its been too long I fixate on it until I do it.  Idk.  Im just disappointed with myself at this point.

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Help a mum?

Posted by Sandra_Sabry | July 24th, 2014

I’m a mum to 2 girls (3.1 years & 3 months).

My older daughter is now depressed to the point that when I tell her comments, sometimes she starts to hurt her self in a few ways (as she says)… This has started around 2 weeks ago & it’s really scarring me!

I had a call from her loving day care teacher that my daughter had a very bad reaction when her teacher asked her why she didn’t ask permission before drinking the juice (day care rule) so my daughter started to retain her tears to the point that her chin was trembling & when her teacher tried to tell her to calm down, she snapped & attempted to hurt her teacher & herself!!!

I’m REALLY sad & don’t know what to do! ¬†My daughter is the funniest kid ever… We were just back from a vacation with family where she was really happy…

FYI, she has been on Zaditen Syrup for allergy for a year & half  almost none stop!

She’s almost not Jealous of her baby sister (as much as possible)… I leave them alone & hide to watch her reaction & I find her caressing her or trying to make her laugh or even leaving her alone & paying with her toys.

Any Help? Please

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Posted by barista.steph | July 19th, 2014

I’m going through a rough time right now and I need to talk about it. My partner got a job where she will be traveling a lot and going into it it was supposed to be three weeks apart and four days home. It’s been three weeks, we found out yesterday it will be another full 6 weeks before she can come home for THREE days. I’m so angry at this company. Everything they’ve said has been a bunch of lies AND the pay will be half of what was advertised. I have drank some since she’s been gone, but I’ve been careful to not drink to cope. Yesterday was the worst day I’ve had on a long time, I didn’t want to drink or get high but I was so stressed out about money and how we will pay rent for this month and next month and if we get kicked out where will we go with all our pets and my sick elderly cat needs to go to the vet and my car is acting up and all these bills and work is decreasing my hours and I’ve hanging on just by a thread. I feel like I’m treading water by praying to god a lot and exercising and not drinking when I know I shouldn’t and not self harming. I’ve been just feeling the feelings and not fighting. My anxiety is so hard to handle right now. I was extra hormonal yesterday and usually I have my partner on days like that-the days I wake up and automatically feel suicidal, and she’ll hold me as long as I need and that helps. But last night was my first REALLY hard day alone and I hugged my pillow and cries for what felt like hours. The ugly cry, wailing and exhausting. I’m just trying to have a little faith that this hard time will pass and we will be ok. That I will be ok, that my anxiety will lessen. Before my big cry last night, I considered self harm, I got a tool I keep by bed to my body to remember what it’d feel like and then I just stopped because it brought me no comfort and no peace. I didn’t want to do it, I don’t want to hurt myself anymore-I want to take care of myself and I’m glad that I think I’m worth that much now. I miss her a lot and I miss my therapist and I miss my parents.

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help? Advice? im new here…..

Posted by Bvb_Chick. | July 8th, 2014

There are some things you should know about me..I am going to high school, ninth grade. I easily make friends and everyone thinks im such a happy teen but that couldnt be farther from the truth….things are getting better now but because of what happened in the past, im getting worse. When i was really little i lived with my grandma and i thought she was my mom…then i was taken from her so i could live im America with my mom and dad…it really hurt. When my parents were together my dad used to verbally abuse us and my mom and used to hit us. Then if that wasnt bad enough, i was molested by my brother…i was six years old when it started eight when he stopped…i just figured it out and i am disgusted with myself…i started S.H when i was 8 but started to use stronger methods and weapons when i turned twelve. I need help……please…..

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Any Encouragement?

Posted by Tranquil Waterfall | June 30th, 2014

Okay, so this has really been bugging me lately and I want to know what anyone out there has to say on this, particularly those of you who are married. Who is going to want someone with all of these self-inflicted scars on her? What kind of person is going to want to marry a person who has, well, all of that?


job searching

Posted by blueray | June 28th, 2014

I am feeling rejected, dejected and without purpose. Job searching is taking its toll and it is hard for me, who did not have much self confidence or self esteem before, to maintain some level of self-compassion. I just got rejected once again..and for something I really wanted. I feel hurt and discouraged more and more. I feel the shame too. I come from a family who sees someone’s worth and identity by what they do for a living and how much money they make. Well, I am not doing well in either of those categories. I care too much about what they think of me. I care too much about what others think of me. And I compare myself to others way too much. I allow it to make me feel worthless and stupid. The other night I felt myself on the verge. Not only did I have an urge to SI to punish myself for being turned down again, but I felt so lost and hopeless wondering why I was even existing. I think it can be somewhat difficult for most people to continue to pick themselves up after getting repeatedly turned down, but for those who struggle with depression and low self confidence it is even worse. I find myself praying and begging God for help, but I continue to lose faith, and that makes me sad and angry too.

I know I keep repeating myself, but I need to write this. I want to talk about it, but after the first time I express my feelings, most people don’t want to continue to hear it. I am not sure how much longer I can take the rejections, but I can’t stop looking for a job. I am desperate to have a purpose and start moving forward. I just am having a lot of trouble picking myself up and not punishing myself for feeling like a failure every time an opportunity slips away.


Old music

Posted by XxAnchorzxX | June 21st, 2014

Meh listening to music I used to listen to last year feels like I haven’t listened to it in forever :( like I’ve changed so much in just one yea it’s insane like last year I was very depressed and going though a lot of self harm and suicidal thoughts and heart break. Now, I’ve gotten better and I don’t self harm as much, I have a new amazing boyfriend who loves me for me and it’s just amazing living :) the only problem I have is my weight. I was so skinny last year and I loved it, I loved the way I looked to be quite honest, actually I didn’t last year I thought I was too fat but now that I’m gaining more weight I’m looking back and thinking “what was I thinking?” I was perfect weight but some people say I was ¬†too stressed and going through a lot to that I didn’t pay attention and that’s why I was losing weight. I don’t know but still just thinking back I’ve changed a lot. Listening to certain bands or songs makes me think of it all, like some songs from Bring Me the Horizon or Oasis or even Scary kids scaring kids. They all bring back memories of my best friend Seth who I miss¬†tremendously. ¬†They also bring back memories of S.A.FE. and how much I miss it there. Though when I think about it, I know they would be proud of me, like REALLY proud of how much I’ve progressed.¬†

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You are not alone.

Posted by aland | June 18th, 2014

I have started a meeting for people that self harm. Everybody is welcome!! Its every Friday from 7:00 p.m to 8:00 p.m at St. Georges Church in Laguna Hills CA. The address is¬†23802 Avenida De La Carlota, Laguna Hills, CA 92653. The meeting is based off of Alcoholics Anonymous and is very small at the moment and could use support!! I’m really trying to get something going. I self harmed for five years and on November 1st I’ll have been free from self harm for two years. If you have any questions please ask!! Thanks

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Someone please help…

Posted by mcs1986 | June 16th, 2014

I am 29 years old and have been injuring for 7 years now. ¬†Back in the winter, it got out of control. ¬†I sought help from my pastor and his wife. ¬†My pastor’s wife is like a mother to me- an amazing mother. ¬†She and her husband are moving across the country to follow the Lord’s calling. ¬†I cannot handle this- I need her influence in my life… I want to injure. ¬†Yesterday was 4 months of no injuring. ¬†I don’t even care- I want to injure. ¬†I am hurting so badly…

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